Client Stories

After a traumatic assault and years of violent bullying, my teenage client Vicky had withdrawn almost completely from life.

With her coat-hood always pulled up, her big headphones always on and her head permanently down, she could not go anywhere without being accompanied. Every part of her life was affected — but most especially her journey to college, where she even had a dispensation to never be asked to speak in class.

This was not shyness. It was a nervous system and an identity shaped entirely around fear, protection, and withdrawal.

After a few sessions, she mentioned something in passing.

She had spent the day at Meadowhall — the region’s biggest and busiest shopping centre. She had been shopping. She had met her friends.

Meadowhall. The place she had feared more than anywhere else in the world, because it was the known hangout of her former bullies.

What made the moment so powerful was not the drama of it. It was the fact that she had simply begun living again. She had not forced herself through a technique. She had not spent the day battling fear. She had just gone — and had not even realised how significant it was. She mentioned it in passing, as an everyday event.

Which it had now become.

That is often what real change looks like. Not performance. Not effort. Just the quiet return of a life.

Graham returned two years after his own sessions to book in his son. When asked how he had fared since his original problem, he realised he could not even remember what it was.

Carole had lived with a fear of enclosed spaces for years. When her daughter moved to Australia, she was terrified she would never be able to go and see her.

After a small number of sessions, the fear had gone. She flew twenty-one hours — and felt fine the entire journey. She spent three weeks with her daughter and her new grandson.

Michael had dreaded his wedding speech so much he had stopped eating in the weeks beforehand. He arrived convinced he was the kind of person who simply could not do this.

On the day, he was so relaxed he did not want to sit down when it was over.

Jessica arrived at twelve years old with a list of ten things that caused her panic attacks — every aspect of school, socialising, and ordinary life. Her mother had run out of ideas.

It took a few sessions. By the end, she was a grade A student. She has now graduated from university and is, by all accounts, thriving.

Her mother remains one of the warmest advocates this practice has.

JAYNE’S STORY

“My story starts with a diagnosed condition called dystonia — which causes physical involuntary tremor movement in my neck. Over the years I had created anxieties that people were looking at me, causing simple daily tasks such as shopping to be something I wanted to avoid.

On top of this, I was diagnosed with breast cancer. My confidence took a hit and I was faced with further anxieties — my hair loss, going out in public without a hat for the first time.

Despite all of this, I was determined to deal with these unwanted feelings and bring some normality back to my life.

After only four sessions — yes, just four — Alexandra has transformed my thinking. I no longer stress about the perceptions of others. Where once I would try to avoid things, I find I don’t think about it anymore. I just get on with it.

I feel the most confident I have felt for years. I now attack life with a new outlook.

Thanks Alexandra — for helping me get back the normality I craved.”

KIM’S STORY

“I just want to say a huge thank you for helping me deal with the issues preventing me from letting go — and for helping me overcome confidence issues on stage.

As a professional singer, I now feel more free to be the best version of me, without any hang-ups. Nothing can hold me back. Alexandra helped me let go of anything holding me back by releasing out-of-date emotions.

If you have issues with confidence, nerves or anxiety — Alexandra could be the answer you are looking for.

Thank you. You’re amazing.”

Every person whose story appears on this page started where you are now — uncertain, sometimes sceptical, wondering whether this would be the thing that finally worked.

The Mapping Session is where we find out.

Thirty minutes. Complete clarity. And almost always, the beginning of something that changes everything.